Today we are going to discuss the difference between giving effective consequences and punishments, and why effective child discipline can change your child’s behavior while punishments do not.

First we must be clear that punishments do not improve child behavior. We see this clearly from our prison system. You cannot punish someone into changing his behavior for the good. That is true for child, it is true for teens and it is true for adults.

However, child discipline through consequences can improve your child’s behavior. The reason is simple.

When a parent disciplines a child using consequences, included in the discipline is a teaching experience that instructs your child how to behave better in the future.

One of the main reasons a child misbehaves is that it is the best option he knows at the time. A child misbehaves for one of three reasons.

1-He doesn’t know any better
2-He is in a situation that he doesn’t know how to handle and he falls apart
3-He has learned that this behavior gets him the best result

When you attach a teaching experience with your discipline you are addressing all there reasons. You are teaching a child who doesn’t understand his behavior is wrong or doesn’t know how to handle a certain situation the proper way to behave. And through the negative aspects of the consequence you are showing a child who has learned that bad behavior gets him what he wants that this option is no longer an effective.

You are taking a child who responds to a certain challenge in an inappropriate way and showing him the proper way to respond. You are using child discipline to encourage your child to improve his behavior in the future.

For example, if your child is angry, he may hit another child, or throw a tantrum, or use inappropriate language. The reason he does this is that this is the best response he can come up with when he is upset.

Now if you were to just punish your child for his misdeeds, you would show him that his choice of behavior is not satisfactory, but you would not have suggested to him a new way to behave. An effective consequence includes the lesson of how to behave in the future as part of the consequence. Your child is learning a new way to respond.

What does this look like?

Let’s say your teen has a problem with cursing and he speaks to you with bad language.

An appropriate consequence would be to ground him to his room until he writes you a letter of apology. Included in that apology should be what he can next time instead of cursing.

For example, when he is feeling angry or upset, instead of cursing he can remove himself from the situation and go to his room. You may have to coach him on the appropriate response, but once you he learns it and you have his commitment in his own handwriting, it is far more likely that he will remember to go to his room the next time he is angry or upset.

When the situation comes up again, he can either reflexively curse or he can go to his room and cool off. And if he chooses to curse you can just show him his letter with his commitment to go to his room, and then you will have much less resistance to giving another consequence. He will know that he deserves it.

In short, effective child or teen discipline requires your consequence to include with it a teaching experience in order to show your child how to behave better. This is the major difference between ineffective punishments and effective child discipline.

This is just one of the secrets of effective child discipline that most parents do not know.

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So this is what happened last night…

If you did not call in to the teleseminar on

How to Save Money on Your Child’s College Education
last night, then you do not know why I am writing to you.

However, if you were on the call or tried to get on the call you know exactly why I am writing to you.

A few minutes after the call began, I lost my internet connection. Since the service that I use requires that I be logged in to manage the dashboard, when I got shut down, the call got shut down.

It took about 40 minutes to get the connection back and by then it was too late.

When I got the call log information and I saw how many people went to the call and found nothing…
I feel really bad about wasting everyone’s time.

The normal thing to do would be to apologize and reschedule the call. However, one of the things I was going to announced on the call last night is something that is extremely time sensitive.

I worked this out for you after Wednesday’s call, so if you were on that call you do not know about this yet

And if I wait until next week to reschedule the opportunity will have passed.

Here is the Deal:

First of all, to make up for what happened, I am going to give you the recording of the call from last night.

You can listen to it at your leisure any time you want.

This is What is Time Sensitive:

I worked out a deal for you where you can get a free consultation on what you can do financially to prepare for your child’s college education.

That means you can speak with Ron Caruther’s counselors and they will go over your situation. They will give you some strategies that you can use right away plus they will give you an idea of how much you can expect to save each year.

This consultation is easily worth $100 and it should save you well over $1000/year.

It’s like getting $4000 in your pocket and it’s free.



This consultation requires no commitment on your part and they understand this. It is purely to give you a clear idea of your options. 



Their office opens at 10 am PST so here is what you need to do now: 



First you’ll need to call Maria: 



The number is:

(760) 239-6619

Be sure you only speak with Maria and tell her you are with DR. Kane’s group


She will answer any questions you have and schedule your one-on-one free consultation.

This is a really good deal, because :

• it costs you nothing
• it can save you so much.

Warmly,

Anthony Kane, MD

P S Make sure you call first thing, because they set aside only a certain number of spots for this free consultation and Ron didn’t tell me how many.

It could be open to 5 families, it could be for 15, I don’t know.

So what I would suggest you do is this:

1- call and schedule your free consultation
2- after you schedule your time, listen to the call at your leisure
3- if after you listen to the call you like what you hear, then you already have your slot.

If you don’t think this will help you, just call and cancel.

This will give you the best chance at taking advantage of everything I have set up for you

Now here is where to get the recording of last nights:

teleconference call

To listen to the call, click on the link.
To download the call just click on the link with your Right Mouse Button.

So at 1 pm EST or 10 am PST call:

(760) 239-6619

Speak only with Maria and be sure to tell her you are in Dr Kane’s group

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“Everyone from Barack Obama to Bill Gates keeps pushing a college 
education as the way to secure one’s economic future.”

But is this idea true or false?

Well, the answer is that it depends.

It is true that statistically on the average college graduates earns more than high school graduates. However, your child is not a statistic. So what is true for most other students may be entirely irrelevant to your child’s situation.

Recently, Yahoo.com featured an article about Kelli Space. Kelli is 23 years old and graduated from Northeastern University in 2009 with a BA in sociology. She also graduated with $200,000 of student loan debt.

Given that the average starting salary for someone who holds a BA in Sociology is about $35,000/year, if she applies $10,000 of her annual salary just to pay her loan, Kelli will spend almost 40 years working full time just to pay off the principal and accrued interest on her college loan.

That means that for most of Kelli’s life she will be carrying around this debt with her. She will bring it with her to her marriage. It will be with her when she gives birth to her children. And when her children grow up and they go off to college, Kelli will still be paying off her student loans.

Of course, all this is assuming her lenders would let her pay only $10,000 a year. What is actually happening that Kelli is expected to pay $1600/month or $19200/year. That means after Kelli pays her loan debt she will have $15,800/year left over to do things like buy food and pay income tax.

How did this happen? How did Kelli get herself into such a financial mess?

The truth is that it is not really Kelli’s fault. True, she is the one who ultimately made the choices that got her to where she is today and she is the one who is going to suffer for those choices. But how old was she when she started on this path? Seventeen? Maybe eighteen?

Kelli’s story is really unfortunate. She entered college full of optimism thinking that this was going to open the future for her. But at seventeen she lacked the experience and foresight to think about the debt she was accruing and what that would mean to her future.

So where were the adults that were supposed to be watching out for her? Well, like most of us, Kelli’s parents believe what Barack Obama and Bill Gates believe. They thought education is the key to success and they wanted their daughter to have the best education possible.

What about Kelli’s school advisers and guidance counselors? Shouldn’t they have had the experience to steer Kelli on the correct path? It seems that looking out for Kelli’s financial future was outside their realm of expertise. It’s not in their job description.

But do you know what is really tragic about Kelli’s story? Two things:

1-Her situation is not unique. In fact, it is quite common. Children are graduating college every year with a debt burden that is going to hamper their lives for decades.

2- What happened to Kelli was entirely preventable.

Had Kelli received the proper advice from someone who really understood the system and all the options available, she would have been instructed on what steps to take to avoid the obvious financial disaster of her current plan.

Kelli had a whole host of options and opportunities that would have protected her without requiring her to pick a cheaper school or a higher paying career. But unfortunately, the adults in her life were not aware of these options. Her parents didn’t know about them. Her teachers had not heard of them. And her guidance counselors were completely unaware of them.

So now Kelli and many college graduates just like her will spend most of their adult lives burdened by the price of a degree that was supposed to give them financial security. Or else they will be forced to default on their loans and ruin their credit for the next decade.

And again, all of this was preventable. That’s what is so sad.

You definitely don’t want this to happen to your child.

If you have a child in high school that you plan to send to college, then I am going to give you the opportunity to protect your child.

Recently, we held a free teleseminar for our community where the nation’s leading college planner. Ron Caruthers, revealed numerous strategies to save money on your child’s college education. The interview lasted 86 minutes.

Ron has agreed to let me broadcast this teleseminar again.

The repeat of the teleseminar will be held two times this week.

Wednesday at 3 PM EST
Thursday at 9 PM EST

The teleseminar is 86 minutes and I will be on the line afterward to answer any questions you might have.

Therefore, if you are interested in learning how you can save thousands of dollars on your child’s education, please sign up below and I will send you the information to get on the call.

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I am going to share with you the number one secret that, on the average, will save you 31% on your child’s education.

• You do not need to quality
• You do not need to apply to anything
• Your income is irrelevant
• Your amount of personal assets is irrelevant

You do not need to qualify because anyone who knows this secret qualifies.

You do not need to apply for anything, because no entity is going to be giving you this money. There are no forms to fill out. This is not a grant that you are going to receive. It is not a financial aid package. The government is not involved.

Your income is irrelevant because the way you qualify is to know this secret and to apply it to your particular situation.

Your personal assets are not a factor, because you and your child are the ones who decide whether or not you get this money.

And it doesn’t matter where you send your child to school. The school is irrelevant because it’s not the school that’s giving you money.

Saving this money is completely ethical. You are not taking away from anyone else.

More than that, this 31% is money that you should not spend. In fact, it is bad for you to spend this money.

However, if you are like the average family, you will spend this money, if you don’t take precautions now to prevent it. And to prevent it you need to know only one fact about college education today.

And here it is…

The average college program in the United States and Canada today takes four years to complete. That means that unless your child is exceptional and finishes school early, you are in for four years of tuition payments, right?

Wrong. It should be correct, but it is not.

The average college student takes 5.8 years to finish his or her 4-year program. It is not because college has gotten harder or students are unable to do the work.

The reason why most freshmen entering an undergraduate program this autumn can expect to be there for the next five to six years is because most students do not know why they are going to college.

They all know that they are going to school to get an education, but most students haven’t thought past that. They have no plan of what they want to learn, why they want to learn it, and how this education is going to forward their future plans.

They have no future plans.

As a result most students float around campus for a year or two trying to decide what they want to do with their lives. Then they wake up some time during their junior year and realize that they have done almost nothing to move closer to graduating with some major.

As a result they have to begin working on actually earning their degree, and this takes an extra 1.8 years on the average. For you that means you will be spending and extra 31% on your child’s college tuition. Since tuition is between $20-$55,000 a year that means an extra $36-$99,000 of expense, just because your child entered college without a plan.

That is the problem.

The solution is fairly easy. Sometime early in your child’s high school career, your child needs to start focusing on what he wants to do with his life. Your job is to make sure he starts thinking about it.

That doesn’t mean you decide for your child or even that you offer your opinion. Your child’s future is purely his choice. Your job is be a sounding board so your child has somewhere to bounce his ideas. But you must get him thinking.

The goal is that your child should have some type of plan or at least some direction before he even applies to colleges. This plan is not binding and your child has the right to change his mind.

However, if you can ensure that your child enters school with some idea of why he is going there and what he hopes to achieve, then his chances of finishing a four year program in four years instead of 5.8 years like the average college student are greatly increased.

And that means you will be spending 31% less than other parents in your position.

There are other benefits of your child know why he is going to college. He will probably be more motivated to work harder in school and get better grades if he has a reason to do so.

If he is going to school to get training for a future career, he might leave the school prepared for that career. He might have done summer internships and made connections, so that when he graduates, he leaves school with a job waiting for him.

That means he won’t be like 85% of college graduates who leave school, move back home with their parents, and then start to think about what they want to do with their lives.

Just having your child think about why he is going to college and what he wants to achieve by doing so will save you a ton of money, and greatly enhance your child’s performance in college and his prospects upon graduation from college.

Here is Another Secret:

Before three weeks ago I did not know any of this.

I learned this from Ron Caruthers, the nation’s leading expert on college planning. Ron is a member of the Complete Connection Parenting Community and a three weeks ago he agreed to discuss with us the process of getting funding for college.

We held a free teleseminar for our community where Ron revealed numerous strategies to save money on your child’s college education. The interview lasted 86 minutes.

What you have just read, I learned from Ron in 3 ½ of those 86 minutes. There was a lot more.

Unfortunately, because of a combination of technical problems and bad timing, many parents who registered to attend the teleseminar were locked out.

Ron has agreed to let me broadcast this teleseminar again.

The repeat of the teleseminar will be held twice next week. Once at 3 PM EST and once at 9 PM EST. The teleseminar is 86 minutes and I will be on the line afterward to answer any questions you might have.

We haven’t picked a day yet, but it will be either on Tuesday or Wednesday. If you want to hear this free teleseminar and you have a preference on the day or time, please

Therefore, if you are interested in learning how you can save thousands of dollars on your child’s education, please sign up below to get on the private notification list.

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How to Save $10K/yr or More on Your Child’s College Education

Here are the details of our free Teleseminar:

This is just some of what you will learn:

• Why having a college savings fund is worse than gambling it all away in Las Vegas (at least in Las Vegas you have a chance to win.)
• 3 ways you can get money for college, even if you have $10,000,000 in assets (income is not a factor)
• How the top private schools in the country ($55K/yr tuition) can cost less than your local state college

And a lot more.

If you use just 10% of what you will hear, you will save yourself thousands of dollars on your child’s education.

Here is the information to get on this call:

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